"Don't Tell Me to Calm Down!" What Not to Do When Your Spouse is Ticked Off

"Don't Tell Me to Calm Down!" What Not to Do When Your Spouse is Ticked Off

Conflict in any committed relationship is unavoidable. Conflict management is necessary to keep arguments from escalating into unhealthy fighting. When your spouse or partner is genuinely upset, it helps to be patient.. Trying to calm an angry spouse can be futile in certain situations. Read on to learn the do’s and don’ts of conflict.

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Has Your Marriage Lost Its Manners? Simple Ways to Restore Civility, Consideration, and Goodwill

Has Your Marriage Lost Its Manners? Simple Ways to Restore Civility, Consideration, and Goodwill

Most of us learn to use good manners in childhood as a means to show respect to our friends and especially our elders. We often forget, however, to keep those good manners in place when we interact with our spouses. Failing to say “please” and “thank you” are simple expressions of respect. Scorn, criticism, contempt, and simple failure to acknowledge your spouse’s feelings is disrespectful. Keep it in mind - good manners convey respect!

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6 Tips for Talking Things Out When Eye-Rolling, Long Sighs & Slamming Doors Don't Work

6 Tips for Talking Things Out When Eye-Rolling, Long Sighs & Slamming Doors Don't Work

Are you or your partner using a passive-aggressive communication style instead of open, honest, and direct expression of your emotions and needs? If so, you are sabotaging the health of your relationship. Frustration and anger are usually the fruits of this dysfunctional style of communication. Read on to learn how to break this unhealthy pattern.

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Are Your Oversensitive? How Defensiveness May Be Damaging Your Marriage

Are Your Oversensitive?  How Defensiveness May Be Damaging Your Marriage

Being sensitive to the feelings of other people, especially our spouses/partners, is a desirable trait. Good traits, like bad traits, can become excessive and damage relationships. If you are over-sensitive, always defending yourself and making excuses, it might be time to look at taking more responsibility for your actions. . . Read more to assess yourself and your spouse.

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Craving Closeness? 5 Ways to Overcome Your Intimacy Issues

Craving Closeness?  5 Ways to Overcome Your Intimacy Issues

Couples frequently enter counseling because they have “drifted apart” and don’t know how to regain the closeness and intimacy they once shared. Healthy relationships require investment of time and energy. With so many distractions and pulls from social media venues, it is easy to lose intimacy and not even realize that it’s happening. If that is happening to you, read on for help in restoring intimacy to your relationship.

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Infidelity All Over Again: What Now?

Infidelity All Over Again:  What Now?

Many couples enter counseling to repair their marriage after infidelity. Many are successful and build a relationship that is stronger than it ever was before. For those couples, however, who experience repeated episodes of infidelity, the challenge is more complicated. Both partners must be willing to look deep within themselves as well as at the relationship to find meaning and the courage to change maladaptive patterns.

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