Being in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean you’re only bed warmers for each other. Neither does it suggest that serving as a cook, mechanic, janitor, accountant, or anything else is enough. And your involvement certainly shouldn’t function simply as a setting for an outlet of sexual needs.
Being in a romantic relationship means you feel deeply loved. It means you’re truly seen, heard, and understood by your partner.
They treat you with kindness, thoughtfulness, empathy, and respect. They’re consistently accessible, perceptive, and sensitive to maintaining a close connection with you. When you approach them, they respond with emotional attentiveness and genuine interest in you.
Those are the qualities of a responsive partner. They make you feel valued and cared for.
Having a responsive partner is crucial to keeping your relationship strong and happy. It’s crucial to recognize, however, that an important part of having a responsive partner is being one yourself.
Are you displaying responsiveness? Or is it something you may need to work on a little? How could you improve?
5 Ways to Be A More Responsive Partner
1. Be sensitive – truly care about your partner’s needs.
Caring comes from the heart. Reach deep down inside yourself and ponder what it is exactly that your partner needs from you and how you can meet that need. Then put it into practice. Be attentive and nurture your partner outside the bedroom. It’s the best aphrodisiac you could ever find. But it can’t stop there. You must continue to care as much about your partner’s needs in bed as you do out of it.
2. Be perceptive – listen and try to understand your partner’s viewpoint.
Open your ears and truly listen. Perceive what your partner is communicating. Ask questions to really understand and comprehend their point of view. Strive to be aware of what your partner is feeling and thinking in the present moment. Listening with genuine curiosity will make them feel understood and valued. The good feeling this produces will encourage them to be closer to you and open up more.
3. Be loving – talk to your partner with tenderness and warmth.
Express yourself in heartfelt ways. Instead of always saying a simple “I love you.” Try being more specific and let them know why you love them. Instead of rushing straight to the bedroom, show your affection by taking time to just touch, hold hands, kiss, or cuddle. Think about what you’re transmitting with your body language. Tender and warm emotional communication, in and out of bed, will make your partner feel safe, happy, and loved.
Be attuned – show empathy for your partner’s feelings.
If your partner has a bad day, don’t take it personally. The best way to deal with negative moods is not to reflect them. Offer kind words and a hug. Let your partner know that you care about their suffering. They need to understand that you still love and value them despite their distress. But don’t be pushy. Allow some space for both of you.
5. Be unselfish – exhibit a willingness to yield to your partner when possible.
Demonstrate concern for your partner’s well-being, even in conflict situations. Never force what you think or want on them. Show humility and unselfishness, and yield to them. That’s especially true during sexual intimacy. Being a responsive partner means that you don’t just want it your way. It means you stay flexible, take each other’s preferences into consideration, and make experiences enjoyable for both of you. If you find yourself disagreeing in bed, your love and care for your partner will keep you from ever pushing your wishes too hard.
Communication is the common thread throughout all of these points – in and out of bed. Make sure you practice it in both settings.