7 Ways To Be a More Positive Spouse or Partner

7 Ways To Be a More Positive Spouse or Partner

In a committed relationship, your interactions with each other should be positive at least 80% of the time on average. When you drop below that baseline, the relationship risks developing a general negative aura. You walk around with a chip on your shoulder rather than giving your spouse or partner the benefit of the doubt. This blog helps you explore ways to keep your relationship healthy and positive . . . .

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"Don't Tell Me to Calm Down!" What Not to Do When Your Spouse is Ticked Off

"Don't Tell Me to Calm Down!" What Not to Do When Your Spouse is Ticked Off

Conflict in any committed relationship is unavoidable. Conflict management is necessary to keep arguments from escalating into unhealthy fighting. When your spouse or partner is genuinely upset, it helps to be patient.. Trying to calm an angry spouse can be futile in certain situations. Read on to learn the do’s and don’ts of conflict.

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Has Your Marriage Lost Its Manners? Simple Ways to Restore Civility, Consideration, and Goodwill

Has Your Marriage Lost Its Manners? Simple Ways to Restore Civility, Consideration, and Goodwill

Most of us learn to use good manners in childhood as a means to show respect to our friends and especially our elders. We often forget, however, to keep those good manners in place when we interact with our spouses. Failing to say “please” and “thank you” are simple expressions of respect. Scorn, criticism, contempt, and simple failure to acknowledge your spouse’s feelings is disrespectful. Keep it in mind - good manners convey respect!

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6 Tips for Talking Things Out When Eye-Rolling, Long Sighs & Slamming Doors Don't Work

6 Tips for Talking Things Out When Eye-Rolling, Long Sighs & Slamming Doors Don't Work

Are you or your partner using a passive-aggressive communication style instead of open, honest, and direct expression of your emotions and needs? If so, you are sabotaging the health of your relationship. Frustration and anger are usually the fruits of this dysfunctional style of communication. Read on to learn how to break this unhealthy pattern.

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Are Your Oversensitive? How Defensiveness May Be Damaging Your Marriage

Are Your Oversensitive?  How Defensiveness May Be Damaging Your Marriage

Being sensitive to the feelings of other people, especially our spouses/partners, is a desirable trait. Good traits, like bad traits, can become excessive and damage relationships. If you are over-sensitive, always defending yourself and making excuses, it might be time to look at taking more responsibility for your actions. . . Read more to assess yourself and your spouse.

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Craving Closeness? 5 Ways to Overcome Your Intimacy Issues

Craving Closeness?  5 Ways to Overcome Your Intimacy Issues

Couples frequently enter counseling because they have “drifted apart” and don’t know how to regain the closeness and intimacy they once shared. Healthy relationships require investment of time and energy. With so many distractions and pulls from social media venues, it is easy to lose intimacy and not even realize that it’s happening. If that is happening to you, read on for help in restoring intimacy to your relationship.

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How to Deal With a Spouse Who "Needs Space"

How to Deal With a Spouse Who "Needs Space"

Your spouse has told you they need some “space.” Alarming news, right? Don’t panic. Calmly talk with your spouse to determine exactly what they mean. Perhaps they need more time with friends or more alone time. Make it a productive time for yourselves as a couple to reflect on your marriage as well as your personal needs in the relationship. Read on. . .

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How To Make Your Marriage Less Competitive and More Cooperative

How To Make Your Marriage Less Competitive and More Cooperative

Actual marriage is not a sit-com TV show where couples garner laughs with their sarcasm and witty put-downs of each other. As entertaining as it might be to watch, berating and competing with your partner can be harmful in real-life settings. Healthy competition in reaching goals can be worthwhile, whereas more serious striving to best each other is never worthwhile. Read on to learn the difference and how to promote cooperation rather that competition.

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